Muna Al-Fuzai has written a second article on her perspective on "mixed marriages". The first article appeared approximately one year ago. She seems fascinated by the subject, although married to a Kuwaiti of the same religion.
From Ms. Al-Fuzai's tone, it sounds almost as if her husband has either married another woman or has considered it; leading her to jealousy or petty speculation. Perhaps the object of his eye is blonde with blue eyes as she seems to point towards this with the statement of, "...fulfils their fantasies of getting married to a Western woman with blue eyes and blonde hair..." (as if there are not hundreds if not thousands of single or divorced Kuwaiti women with dyed blonde hair and blue contact lenses.)
She goes on to say that, "According to some sources (and she does not name the "sources" revealing a lack of journalistic integrity), these woman are most likely homeless back home and broke. So they use Islam to solve their personal troubles." Wow. Fascinating. I know of not even one Western woman (blonde or otherwise) who has ever come to Kuwait "homeless or broke." They have usually come here for work of some kind and have the means to move around the globe freely (financially and otherwise). And none of the Western women I have ever met during my twenty years in Kuwait have ever married for any reason other than love and respect.
As she is a Muslim woman, I question why she is questioning. "The increase of such marriages has more negative outputs than good, and yet we are still watching these cases with no one trying to seek the root of the problem..." To which I say, Ms. Al-Fuzai, read the Holy Quran! It has been written and it has not been changed.
"The fact that these women accept to stand in line with other women shows how desperate they are...." and "... especially if each party has his or her own agenda to hook themselves to a stranger in a serious bond like marriage." Isn't the divorce rate among Kuwaitis (of the same religion, often through arranged marriages where both parties are basically "hooking themselves to a stranger) over 50%? Shame on you, Ms. Al-Fuzai, to stand in judgement of your own sisters and your own religion!
Just for the record, the male Kuwaitis I have spoken to do not want to divorce because of their children. So perhaps Ms. Al-Fuzai should write an informative article on the need for upgrading family law in the country to allow for better custody rights for fathers.
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On another note: I always think that if you're not happy in a marriage, your children are going to suffer. If you stay together; they learn that it is ok to be unhappy in marriage. If you divorce, they suffer because they may not receive the support of both parents. Either way - not a good thing. I am the product of a happy divorce. I believe my parents were much better off away from each other, although my parents were always civil to each other and shared visitation rights. They never spoke ill of each other in front of us. Life is too short to be unhappy. People are not chained to each other. And if either party (man or woman) is not happy at home, chances are that they are seeking happiness elsewhere.