There are 2 residents in my home: my dog and I. WE live there. It is OUR home, not just mine. For the past 16 years, people have come and gone from my life and there is one constant being: Desert Dawg. She has been with me through sick and sin, good times and bad, happy and sad. She really doesn't complain much (unless I try to wake her up in the morning or get in between her and her chicken). She's always happy to see me. She puts her head on my chest when I'm sick. She gives me kisses when I cry. I occasionally get a hug - but only on her terms.
So, it pisses me off when people come to OUR home and say, "Take 'that' outside. I don't like it." Emm nooo, you must have misunderstood the sign on the door that reads: All guests must be approved by the dog.
I have literally thrown people out of my house for infractions - and I don't care. I believe that if someone respects you and likes you, then they show caring for what you love.
One of my friends invited people to a party at my house one time. My rules are simple: Don't bother the dog, don't bother my neighbors, be polite. Well, one of the girls that I didn't know didn't like my dog. Desert Dawg rarely makes noise when she's in any kind of distress, but I heard her yelp. I walked over and not-very-politely said, "Whoever hurt the dog should leave NOW." 5 minutes later, rude people left.
On the flip side, if my dog doesn't like someone, I don't either. She's a great judge of character and intuitively knows if people are good or bad. (And if she loves someone, that's it. She remembers them and gets upset when they don't come to visit her.)
I had a visitor the other night. First time in my home. He sat down and told me to put the dog outside (as IF anyone should tell you to do anything in your own home). Dawg looked at him strangely. I made him so uncomfortable that he left a short while later. I don't put up with any BS on this subject. 'There's the door, now get the F out.'
Now, I have had religious friends who don't want Desert Dawg to touch them and I completely understand that. My dog even respects them. All I have to do is give her the commands and she won't go near. But, there is a polite way to say it and let's be real; if my dog is going to respect your wishes (seriously!) respect mine. Kindness is different than rudeness.
There is no question. Love me, love my dog.