Thursday, February 12, 2009

Predictable


If I can predict the ending to a movie, I don't want to see the rest. I'd rather have something that is thought-provoking with a twist.

I pretty much feel the same about my relationshits. That's probably why I'm not married. For example, I was engaged to my x-fiance for several years (tried to make it work) and just knew that it was going to end in divorce. So, like, why bother?

I can't tell if men are just predictable to me now or if it is just Kuwait that makes it all so... routine, boring... transparent. (snooooore)

Remember when I was whining about my Saturday alone last weekend? Chairman Dude that I mentioned in that post had asked me,"are you going" to several business-related functions; as we're both members of the same groups. I think I stated it clearly when I said that if he was interested in me for anything other than business, then no, I wouldn't want to "meet him" or "accompany him" to any such function. I hate it when a handsome man wants to talk business all night. He looses all of his wholesome cuteness in a few nanoseconds; hero to zero.

Chairman Dude asked me to dinner (good start) - where and when left out. We were supposed to "get together" last night. Because the weather was so bad, I gave him the choice of postponing, which he did - but not via a call, via an SMS. Hmmmmmm..... starting to recognize the pattern.

Wait, I know that smell... it smells like....

Today, I get another SMS, saying, "I am invited for dinner tonight. If you are home, can I stop by before going to dinner?" Oh no he di'int.

BULLSHIT!

How phucking pathetically predictable. zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz Remember when I said in my post that "he will probably disappoint me like All The Rest"? Was I wrong? Puhleeze, once again, would some man please prove me wrong?

aaah - don't all of you write to me and tell me that I'm dating the wrong kind of men. I've run the range: rich men, poor men, educated men, uneducated men, bedu, hather, Shiite, Sunni, Christian (on occassion), various nationalities, white, black, tan, beige...

This is why I would now rather just stay home with my dog. I'm just a jaded, bitter woman with absolutely NO hope of getting a heart-shaped box of chocolates on Saturday. That would be WAY too unpredictable. :)




By the way, Bunny, I love you and you are so far out/away from what I've written that there is no comparisson. You, my friend, are the exception. Too bad I didn't take your number at the Library (nightclub, not where they have books) when we were both 17. Alas, I was a Mean Girl then and you probably wouldn't have liked me anyways.

18 comments:

abolesanzalef said...

hi
I feel you have something annoyed you, so it seems hard to give advice.

aenateus said...

Desert Girl, I'd give you a heart shaped box of chocolates any day just for your blog. Maybe cos Ima Gurrl and I know none are coming my direction this "Friendship Day" either...

Seriously, they are all madly predictable but have this blind spot about it: "Yes, YOU Are The Bajillioneeth Guy Who Has Pulled This Shit."

Desert Girl said...

Aenateus - I send you a HUBUNGOUS heart shaped box of (whatever your favorite is - mine is caramel or raspberry-centers) Godiva chocolates, a lovely piece of jewelry from Tiffany IN the little blue box, AND your favorite flowers (all virtually of course).

Each and every one of them seems oblivious to the fact that they are so much like the others. "I'm not like THEM..." yada yada. Now when I hear the lines, I respond with, "REALLY? (repeat their line) Oh - I've never heard THAT before. No, that is really ORIGINAL. Why don't you go away and try to come up with something better and let me know."

My favorite is when I'm sitting in a restaurant and a 'tard sends me his phone number. No name - nothing cute - just a number. I save those ones to write in the bathroom later.

I'm not a man hater. I'm a player hater.

Q8Sultana said...

Hi,

Ever heard of the concept of "Self-fulfilling prophecy"?

"The self-fulfilling prophecy is, in the beginning, a false definition of the situation evoking a new behaviour which makes the original false conception come 'true'. This specious validity of the self-fulfilling prophecy perpetuates a reign of error. For the prophet will cite the actual course of events as proof that he was right from the very beginning."
(from wikipedia - there's more to it)

I do this all the time too :o)

error said...

Honestly speaking and I know you would hate me, I know you already do hate me, for it but no man would want a woman behaving like you. Generally women do tend to be psychotic, nonetheless you are a genuine person in some odd way.

Stan said...

Well i guess even i'll send u a box full of chocolates DJ for ur great work on this Blog and as a token of friendship..

And if u haven't gotten tht special guy yet u've always got friends 2 hang out on Valentines..

K so listen mayb ur just tryin 2 hard in a relationship..my advise dont imagine the ending of a movie theme with real life..it never works..besides try working out wht relationship u hav..

k k i hate soundin like a philosopher nw..but this is how most indian marriages last through out till the very end..nd the case of divorces is very less if u'v enoticed..but mayb someday DJ u gotta do a research on this topic on ur blog...

Stan said...

And im pretty damn sure a gurls got this extra sense in figuring out the difference between a total jerk and a totally nice person from the first instance they meet...So girls i guess u all just gotta search a lil but more ...

aenateus said...

It's kind of like MST3K, we're doomed to watch the terrible same thing over and over in slightly different versions...

Not a man or a Playa hater either- a sucker for something original. I've sworn for years the only guy I'll marry is the one who brings me flowers. So far, that's been my five year old students...

liliuokalani said...

I like reading ur blog desert girl it just. don't take this the wrong way, but its nice to see that someone's life is just as screwed up as mines. :)

Desert Girl said...

I've chosen to zap a few comments by anonymous commentors who feel that I am man-bashing and that they should retaliate in the form of woman-bashing. Man-bashing was not my point and even if it had been, I don't believe in the tit-for-tat debate on it. This blog is about perspective: mine. If you want to vent your anger about women, religion, whatever your issue is - please feel free to do it; by creating your own blog.

And I really enjoy the attitude, "No man would want you..." Bless your heart... you are missing the point AGAIN. (Although I do agree that most weak, insecure men don't want a strong woman - quite revealing about your character.) It isn't that no man wants me (re-read the post puhleeeze), it is that it is my CHOICE of who I'm with. I could have been married a long time ago (or as recently as last week) if I chose just anybody. People get married all the time. I don't find that difficult at ALL. I could have been married and divorced many times over by now if I wanted to go that route (I have a lovely box of engagement rings as evidence); I'm selective and obviously, none that I have met are right for ME. They might be right for others (your sister, your best friend, you - whoever); they're just not right for ME. My choice. My decision. My life.

I thank God every day that if I am "repeating the same behavior" - then that is a blessing that God has bestowed on me to be able to detect bullshit before it becomes a long-term problem (in the cases I see - a long-term problem that involves children and money).

For those well-intentioned commentors who want me to read the Quran for whatever reason - bless your hearts and practice what you preach.

Desert Girl said...

Hey Stan - BTW many Indian marriages work because the women put up with a whole lot of shit their entire lives. Not so much me. :)

Anonymous said...

Dear DG,
You want a relationship but you don’t think there is anyone worth having it with. You think of marriage but worry about surrendering your freedom.
But this is what human beings are about. Behaviors change, there are off moods and vibrant days. You don’t try to meet all your demands from a single person, you try to prioritize what is most important for you and try to get a guy who possess the same and you adjust with the rest.

How do you suppose a person (even you) will live all their life in only a certain manner. People are not machines and are unpredictable to a certain extend. Suppose you get to meet a person who qualifies all your criteria of a perfect mate, will you reciprocate by changing yourself to meet his criteria’s? Now you will tell, one of your criteria is to accept you as you are. And that is what exactly you should be looking for, a person who is willing to accept, love and be with you for what you are and exactly as you are. The rest are minor details. If you have to “put up” with him for his other qualities, then put up, better than having only a dog to call as permanent relation. The question is, is he willing to love you and take care of you and your kids you might have with him for the length of your relationship with him. Leading it into divorce and not are in the hands of both the parties and hence cannot be blamed on one party.
Not all lasting relations are because one party suffers the brunt of the deal. When people adjust to each other and continue to make decisions for each other, then you call that a relationship, otherwise what you are looking for is short-term flings.

abolesanzalef said...

Anonymous said...
Dear DG,
You want a relationship but you don’t think there is anyone worth having it with. You think of marriage but worry about surrendering your freedom.

Dear Anonymous ..... I accept you opinion too, that is what i was thinking to say but you did...

Desert Girl said...

The blind leading the blind. Dudes, lighten up.

Stan said...

but DG..ur clearly missin a very imp point here...in marriage evrythin is mutual..nd when it lasts ..it definitely shows tht guys also put up with a lot of shit his wife throws at him his entire life ..so no biasing on this issue plzzz.. :-)

Stan said...

hahaha..DG this is really sparkin up a debate nw..funny ..:-)

Desert Girl said...

Boys (and I do mean "boys" because men would be self-confident enough not to respond to something like this): I would like to mention something that you may be overlooking: I'm female (ergo the PINK). Of COURSE I am biassed! No duuuuuuh. If I were a man, I might be writing about my crap relatinshits with women, but since I am not a lesbian, I can't. I whine about MEN. And I'm doing it on a blog written by me. I'm looking at my own chest at the moment saying 'YES! I AM female!' So puhleeeeze, get off the soap box and post on your own blogs about your perspectives about women. Je ne care pas.

This is all about ME ME ME ME ME ME ME. Call me a narcissist, but hey - that's what blogging is about, right?

Stan said...

hmmm....Hats Off 2 desert Dog..he's 1 tough nd loyal dog..hehehehe...