Ok, so I am just going to come out and admit that I have been dabling with online dating of late. Why? Why do you think? ... because I'm frick-in bored. My work hours are 8:30 to 6 which leaves little time to meet people and its too hot outside now to go out in the evenings, so... whatever.
I don't use my real name. I don't use my real photo. I am completely up-front and honest about that. I'm not going to post all my personal stuff in a country that is as small as a postage stamp. Nooooo.
So, what kind of mens have I been meeting? Well, in real life, very few. They never make it that far. In virtual reality, I have met a ton of losers. Let's break it down, shall we?
First, the photos THEY post:
Photos holding their babies. Photos of them half-neked (and NOT well-toned). Photos which are obviously their wedding photos with the wife cut out. And then there are the guys who think it is "cool" to post ugly photos downloaded from the internet. What are these people thinkin? At least make it appealing - and SMILE. They shouldn't be mugshots. No one wants to see that.
So por moi, every once in a while, I decide to change it up and change my profile picture to another pretty picture from the internet (I actually state this on my profile). I get more hits. I often get hits from the same losers who have written to me before. They never remember chatting with me with a previous picture. Weird, eh?
It says on my profile that I don't read Arabic. So, of course, they all write to me in Arabic. Thanks. If you can't pay THAT much attention, then it is a bad sign from the get-go.
So, let's just say that I might get as far as chatting online for several days with a guy. We exchange real photos. Then, we exchange numbers. So far, so good, right? NO. Because this isn't good enough for the Losers. It isn't good enough that you should talk to someone like a human. They want to continue to chat on another medium like WhatsApp. Pick up the phone, dumbass, and talk to me! Or, they call through Viber or Tango trying to connect a video call so they can further see what I look like. Someday, they are going to invent a device where you can pre-program recorded responses and you won't ever have to lift a finger. What ever happened to meeting humans over a cup of coffee? Has it gone this far? How boring.
I've had a few guys invite me to dinner after all. Great! That is what we want to hear! .... Unfortunately, it has turned out that they were inviting themselves to "dinner" at my house. Not gonna happen.
Now when I'm asked, "Do you live alone?" I know how to respond. 'I live with my uncle. He's in charge of training the attack dogs for the military. We've always got a few dogs in the house that he brings home. I love dogs, don't you?' Hey... how bout you just invite me to YOUR house? Maybe your moms can cook us dinner.
I have friends (both Kuwaiti and non-Kuwaiti) who have met and married people through online dating. I met 2 of my very dear friends on the internet. One never knows. Online dating is just another medium to meet people - and it is a lot safer in Kuwait (statistically, no serial killers). I have come across several of my friends on the online dating sites. That is fascinating - especially since they posted their real photos and both are still married.
What has been my worst online dating experience? I honestly haven't had (Mashallah) really bad problems. The worst was probably the uber-rich guy who told me his full name (Flan Flan Flan Flan Al-Flan), what businesses his father owns, how many cars he has, how he has "palaces" all over the world full of "servants" (who TALKS like that??? Nouveau riche apparently.), and started speaking to me in both German and Italian to try to impress me (neither of which I speak). Never let me get a word in edgewise. Never asked about ME. Then, he turned out to be a crazy stalker and called to shout obscenities at me. Very posessive and demanding. Now, if you are well-known (and you've just told me that in a million different ways in 20 minutes), you probably shouldn't be a jerk because now I can run around and tell all my friends stories about you that will be told in countless diwaniyas. Bada BING. Be polite because you never know who you might be talking to or who they might know. Not good, stupid ugly rich dude.
Really - what do we women want? I'm not online because I need you to pay my mobile phone bill or rent. I really just want a nice guy (and ok, I know I'm picky) and I want him to be "normal". Nice conversation. SINGLE. Dinner someplace nice without a cabina. Keep his promises (don't make a dinner date and then change it because YOU have to work. I don't care. A bad first impression is a bad first impression.) Respect. Et, why should we have to weed out those guys who are just after sex? State your plan in the beginning so I can get rid of you right away. Why waste both our time? Move on to someone who DOES need her rent paid.
What was the best date I had with a guy I met on the net? Oh, that's easy. We went to a restaurant that he asked me to choose. We talked for 4 hours straight and he was totally interested in everything I had to say and it was mutual. Neither of us ate very much, but we closed the place down. We didn't even realize that everyone else had left. Romantically, it didn't blossom into anything (although it remains to be seen). We just had a great time and I was blessed to have met someone wonderful. I think he feels the same way about me and that is never a bad thing, is it? I mean, if I had met the guy in other more "conventional" ways, it would also have been a roll of the dice, wouldn't it?