Rule #1: Bitch please, put a lot of money in the termination of marriage clause. Low mahar/high out-clause. "Don't get mad, get everything." Make sure you write enough in there, so you can take yourself to a nice spa somewhere - maybe even buy a home in a vacation spot. Write in that if he wants to divorce you, you want jewelry and maybe a sports car (wouldn't THAT be a thang: He wants to divorce you, but has to buy you a 5K rock and a hot car first!) Write in all the things that make YOU happy, girlfriend! Maybe a little some-in, some-in for your moms too. Then, once you're married, if he ever says the D word - remind him of this: "Yala, divorce me and pay up or shut up!"
Throw yourself from a moving car? Why????