This, during our FIRST conversation about marriage (a "fact-finding", what-if kind of discussion)...
What he opened with: "I WILL marry a second wife and there's nothing you can do about it."
Me (I didn't BLINK before responding): "Um yes, there is. I DO have a choice. Islam gives women choices. On the day that I know you are marrying someone else, you don't have to do a thing. You don't have to move off the sofa. I will go to court the same day and request a divorce."
Him: Blank stare, followed by nervous laughter.
#1 without a DOUBT the most un-romantic, dispassionate, uncompassionate, pathetic, crappy discussion of marriage that I have ever had the misfortune to participate in IN MY LIFE. I would rather hear some guy say, "I'm horny. Let's get married mutaa and dooooo it.." At least in that case, there is something of advantage in that.
Why would you start a conversation about marriage with an ending? Why don't people think before they speak? (Or maybe - just maybe - he didn't want to have the conversation at all and was trying to push me away from the idea all together. Well yeah, that was a success.... You got me there, buddy. Good one! High five!)
It's like me saying (on the first conversation), "I might get itchy feet in a few years and want to hook up with another man. When I do, I'll ask you for a divorce, marry him, and it will be done." (I actually did say that a little later on in the conversation in retaliation.)
Men, there are 2 times when we can get you: When you eat and when you sleep. THINK about it. I hope he's wondering what was really in those chocolate chip cookies I baked him. Mmmm mmmm good....
(Sidebar: He was there when I lost a bunch of friends - including my best friend - and I needed someone around. God sent him to me for a reason. He served his purpose.)