I don't have English transcripts for it yet, but apparently yesterday Sheikha Awrad spoke out against xenophobe MPs Safa Al-Hashem and others and their plans to eradicate Kuwait of foreign workers. She stated (again, no transcripts, but from what I have heard) that these MPs are not working in the best interest of the Country, but for their own best personal interests (suggestion is monetary gain).
I applaud her. Someone finally had the balls to stand up to these people!!!
Unfortunately, before today, I knew nothing about this Sheikha and I am glad that I was able to do a little research on her.
“A
leading charity work activist in Kuwait . Known as the mother of bedoons since
the start of her humanitarian missions in 2003, seeking fairness for this group
whose members were not given the Kuwaiti citizenship . Announced donating one
of her kidneys to one of the bedoon patients in celebration of the Kuwaiti
organ transplant society in 2006 . One of the most well known public figure for
defending the rights of non-citizens ( bedoons) . Founding member of the life
foundation which is a foundation specialized in assisting terminal cancer
patients especially bedoons . Hold the title of the mother of bedoons dear to
her heart."
Tuesday, October 31, 2017
Sunday, October 29, 2017
Equality for foreign residents
My friend mentioned a quote by the late Sheikh Zayed of the UAE (God rest his soul) regarding expats (I refer to us as “foreign residents” as the term “expat” has become a term in Kuwait synonymous with all the problems in the country).
“Sheikh Zayed Al Nahyan was told that 85% of the workforce in the UAE is made up of expatriate workers, he said:
THAT IS LEADERSHIP.
I hope that the latest Kuwaiti government to be sworn in will have similar fundamental beliefs.
“Sheikh Zayed Al Nahyan was told that 85% of the workforce in the UAE is made up of expatriate workers, he said:
The livelihood is from God,
the money is God's,
the land is God's,
the grace is God's,
we are all God's creation,
and he who has trusted God will never be failed, and those who come to us are welcome.”
THAT IS LEADERSHIP.
I hope that the latest Kuwaiti government to be sworn in will have similar fundamental beliefs.
Wednesday, October 25, 2017
Kuwait 2020: Re-arranging deck chairs on the Titanic?
Are former US Ambassador to Kuwait, Deborah Jones’, remarks
about the future of Kuwait beyond 2020 coming to fruition?
Wikileaks leaked a report that Ambassador Jones sent to the
Department of State in 2010. My favorite
quote was that Kuwait is, “rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic.” It is a fascinating perspective and one that
I’m sure she didn’t want to become public.
Deborah Jones was Ambassador to Kuwait from 2008 through 2011. I admire the her. She is a
tell-it-like-it-is kind of person with a sharp wit and dry sense of humor. She
speaks fluent Arabic, regularly frequented diwaniyas and political gatherings,
and had an in-depth understanding of Kuwaiti culture.
Ambassador Jones’ report was brought to my attention by a
friend and former Kuwaiti MP who believes Kuwait is headed in the direction predicted
by Amb Jones. (As he stated, "I'm worried about securing the future of my children and grandchildren. I've bought a home in Europe.") You can read the full
report and perspective pieces regarding the report at:
Thursday, October 19, 2017
Why I would leave Kuwait
I've been in Kuwait for 22 years this past month.
In 1990/91, I volunteered with Citizens For a Free Kuwait in Washington, DC and ran a not-for-profit organization called Kuwait Link to try to assist in any way I could towards the liberation of Kuwait and the assistance of the Kuwaiti people. When the 100-hour war took place in 1991 to liberate Kuwait, I struggled to go along with my Kuwaiti friends. I wanted to fight. But I couldn't; I was the only American with the group of Kuwaiti female interpreters that were going to basic training and then on to Kuwait. I was a liability as an American. So I stayed. And Kuwait was liberated in a blink of an eye.
I came here first in 1993, to look around and then I settled here in 1996. There were very few single American professional working women. I knew of only one other and learned about her only much later. Most American women were married to Kuwaitis. In the States, I had been engaged to a very nice Kuwaiti man, but I knew we just weren't meant for each other. (We are still friends after 33 years.) He wasn't the reason I came here: I came here because I honestly fell in love with Kuwait and Kuwaiti people on my visit (I sobbed most of that first plane ride back to the States. The BA air hostess hugged me and comforted me!). The people were kind and hospitable and caring. I had a cold, one of my friends would rush over to take me to the hospital. Literally. I was alone, they would come pick me up for family lunches. I needed something, my Kuwaiti friends were always there. Always. They never asked for anything in return and they did it out of kindness and love. The expression was, "they have a white heart."
I found a job before I came here. I worked at a subsidiary of an Islamic bank which asked me to wear hijab in the office. It was a unique insight into the lives of ladies who do choose to cover. I learned quite a bit about their decision and I respected them and the dignity they held. Of course, my wearing of the hijab was forced and so my heart was never in it; but I did try to be modest and respectful; even waiting an appropriate amount of time in my red sports car to pull it off at the end of the day and drive home. I'm glad I had the experience.
In the 90's, people in Kuwait still had time. You had time to meet your friends; share a stikana of tea or a plate of foul for breakfast at the beginning of the work day. You had time to meet for weekend lunches. No one had smart phones. The few who did have cell phones had Alcatels and Nokias or more likely, pagers. We weren't on them all the time because calls were expensive. It was cheaper to get paged and stop by Sultan Center to use their free public phone. Family meals with Kuwaitis were loud and festive with kids running in and out. It was a time to tell stories and share laughs. Everyone paid attention to each other. There normally wasn't even a television on (as at the time, Showtime and Orbit were the 2 satellite providers and not only did most people not have them - it was considered expensive at that time - but their programs were limited). KTV wasn't great and and they weren't on all the time. So you were forced to talk to each other. And it was nice.
In the 90's as a Westerner, you could walk down the street and people would stop to chat with you; maybe ask you where you are from and what you are doing in Kuwait. They were kind and friendly.
As the years passed, things started to change. In the early 2000's - particularly after 2003 when the US went into Iraq and Saddam was ousted - being a Westerner (especially an American) wasn't such a great thing. Teenaged kids hadn't been taught much about the Gulf War and how the Allied forces had worked with Kuwait towards liberation. People hadn't wanted to relive the past by talking about it, so when 2003 rolled around, America was frowned upon for "invading a neighboring Islamic country," Iraq. Iraqi music was played again throughout Kuwait. US and British flags were no longer sold on Liberation and National Days as they had been in the past. Time had quickly moved on.
Now we all have smart phones. Everyone is too busy to see each other and when we do, we all bow our heads to the Smart Phone Gods and spend far too much time in the cyber world than we do finding out what is happening in each other's lives. My lunches at Kuwaiti friends' homes are pretty much along the same lines. Kids no longer run through the rooms, laughing. They are too busy on their phones. We are all too busy at work to stop and chat over tea in the morning and God forbid someone should bring in breakfast; it might be seen as the end of our work ethics.
Note: back in the 90's and the early 2000's - there were only a handful of Kuwaiti restaurants. Now Kuwait is flooded with them. Both parents work these days and it is much easier to order than to spend time cooking.
When I see old friends, many want to talk about business. What we can do to make money. What other people are doing to make money, etc. On the rare occasions when I receive invitations these days, I always have to stop to question the motives. Why do they want me there? What will the discussion turn to? Who wants to do business with me/US? Rent their house to a Westerner? Import a car from the States? What will the pitch be? I can't just relax and let my guard down. It can't be about having fun and catching up (for the most part. I'm speaking in generalities. I know my closest friends and they are without ulterior motives; which is why I have limited myself to a tight-knit inner circle.)
My long-time non-Kuwaiti friends (Western professionals) are all but gone now. A few still remain, but are planning to leave. My best friend left Kuwait this year after 30 years here. Her Kuwaiti son is a diplomat and has no plans to ever return to Kuwait.
Why?
I can't say that there is just one reason, but a collection: It is just uncomfortable here now. It is as if the Sword of Damocles hangs above your head and you are in constant anxiety that something bad is about to happen (not terrorism or DAESH or any of that): Expat anxiety. People used to have parties or gatherings and be happy. There was a quality of life. You used to be able to go for a walk or leave your house to go to the grocery store without being anxious as to if you forgot your ID and may be sent to a deportation center for not having it with you. Deport, deport, deport. For everything from a traffic violation to (it seems recently) jay walking.
You can't own property as a foreigner in Kuwait, so you spend decades on what could have been mortgage payments. There are plans to limit the amount of time foreigners can live here to 10 years. For those of us who love Kuwait as a second home (and have even fought for the country in various ways), this is insult AND injury. Every non-Kuwaiti person must leave Kuwait eventually.
People have been willing to leave their own countries to come to live in Kuwait and we are blamed for many problems that would exist here with or without us. Like traffic. If I had an extra few billion dinars right now, I would create safe public mass transportation (where women wouldn't be groped and hoodlems wouldn't be allowed on to throw rocks at passengers for fun). I would even use it to get to/from work (as I use it in Dubai). I would create toll lanes on the highways (for all - not just for "expats"). But, it isn't my money and I'm not a decision maker. Why should I, as a foreign resident in Kuwait, be blamed for a failing system that could have/should have been fixed decades ago?
Foreign workers did not miraculously appear out of thin air: we were all brought here to work. We all go through a rigorous visa process. Someone at some time wanted us here (and as long as your visa is valid - they still must). (Illegal visa traders, of course, are the exception. They don't care as long as they are making a profit from selling visas They are the same breed as coyotes who leave Mexican illegal immigrants in the desert for their own profit. We all know who the Kuwaiti coyotes are, but little or nothing is being done to stop their illegal human trade.)
I'm not a guest in this country. That term is belittling and I refuse to use or respect it. If you are a guest, someone picks you up a the airport, takes you home (free of charge), feeds you, gives you some clean towels and shows you where your bed and the bathroom is. Maybe gives you a glass of water before saying goodnight. They probably cook your meals and give you desert after dinner. I'm not a guest. I get none of that.
I'm a resident of Kuwait. I make my own living and my own dinner. I add to the economy of this country. I have bought several cars while in Kuwait, paying interest (or "profit" in one case to an Islamic lending bank). I have leased cars. I bought furniture and goods in the local market (often paying much higher prices than I would in my own country). I pay my rent on time to my Kuwaiti landlord (for the past 22 years). I pay my electric bill. I pay for satellite TV. The list goes on and on. Who benefits from that? Kuwaiti merchants. Not foreign merchants: KUWAITI. Take away the foreign residents and you take away from the economy of the country and fellow Kuwaiti country men/women.
This is why the xenophobic politicians spouting expat hatred these days infuriate me so much. They seek their 15 minutes of political fame, but at what price? To the cost of the Kuwaiti economy. Citizens might agree to the ideology in the short term (Kuwait for Kuwaitis), but when the economy begins to wane and the thousands of new tiny apartments remain empty and no one is spending on services or products, the tide may quickly turn. (I just learned that Audi sales, for example, are down by 30% over last year. Granted, that is a luxury brand, but I wonder what other auto brands are suffering. The political instability for expats is creating spending fears.)
One of the biggest issues today in Kuwait is the over-extended Kuwaiti healthcare system. I love it that Kuwait has had virtually free healthcare, but I have used it only twice in 22 years. Once was not by choice: I didn't want to be transported to a government hospital when a young man on drugs crashed into my car. I would have preferred a private hospital. For that matter, I would have preferred that I would be allowed to donate my portion of the free health care to someone in need of it. My employer pays 100 KD/yr in my name for something I refuse to use as I get private insurance through that very same employer. It is wasteful and unnecessary. Further, it disgusts me to see law makers differentiating between ill patients via their nationality. I always firmly believed that Islam doesn't differentiate between humans by color or country or religion.
I have been here over two decades now. I haven't seen many changes in healthcare. Why aren't there more qualified Kuwaiti doctors? Is it that the system isn't retaining them? Is the country not educating young people or helping them to become doctors? Are they leaving? Why are Kuwaitis still being sent to Europe and the US for specialized healthcare? This isn't a new subject. I don't see the now-empty hospital waiting rooms as a good thing for anyone. If the fees are increased so much that poor sick expat people can't afford to go to the hospital, doesn't that actually put more Kuwaitis at risk for catching communicable diseases? The sick aren't going to hospitals for fun or because it is low-cost. If you're sick and can't afford to go to a doctor, you are more than likely to suffer in silence. Why did they put the cart before the horse? Devise a low cost insurance alternative first; or force employers (sponsors) to pay increased public insurance fees.
Let me get off politics and get back to my story.
I think what really changed my attitude about living here was what happened to me in 2015. You can read the full story in older posts here, but I was living in a house that was owned by Kuwaitis. They were so inhumane to me that I started to loose faith in Kuwaiti people all together. I never knew that there could be Kuwaitis that were so full of hate. I now chose my circle of friends with a lot more scrutiny. I have been very selective about what personal information I give out. I reference check landlords and even people I do business with. I never would have considered doing that when I first came here. I had such faith in the society. ... It's gone.
It seems that the joy has left the country. The activities that I used to find peaceful and relaxing have been ruined by internal invaders: Go to the desert and pick out a completely isolated spot, only to have people roll up in 4x's, pitch a tent right next to yours and put on loud music all night. Go to the beach in an isolated spot (even if it is by boat) and you will find people show up next to you and put on a show to attract attention. Where has the decency gone? What about privacy? Respect? Even the quiet things have been ruined. Cultural mores are a thing of the past. Everything and everyone is fair game for entertainment and self-gratification.
For years, I have helped promote Kuwait to people (mostly Westerners) transitioning to life here. I've made a lot of friends and answered a lot of e-mails: I've posted about the attractions, things to do, places to see. Where to go to find a home, where to go to buy or have furniture made. Where to buy a car. Where to send your kids to school. What doctors, dentists, mechanics, hair salons I would recommend. All of this amounts to promoting the local economy; of helping Kuwaiti businesses that I like and believe in. I have taken great pride in it, but recently I have found it more difficult to maintain my positive outlook. And to respond to queries for recommendations.
Its hard to stay positive and to help others when the same people that you are promoting could potentially be lumping you, a foreign resident, into a singular "expat" group that they may secretly desire to be expunged from the country. The recent political climate has polarized the country and created divisions and suspicions and questions. Unless I have a personal connection to businesses or services, I am now reluctant to promote them. How do they really feel about expat-me? Is that "deport" word in the back of their mind? Do they feel the right to be in line first because of the differences in our nationalities? I question if I should help or not. Part of me says, 'Stay true to yourself and believe in the good in all people," but every day a new expat law or proposal becomes part of our lives, limiting personal freedoms and rights; bringing my morale down a notch or two. Am I promoting the same people who stand behind that type of discriminatory behavior (and sadly, I have found that some of my dear Kuwaiti friends actually harbor that type of mentality)? Should I just remain quiet and stop assisting?
I don't even want to go out anymore because of the amount of road rage (and NOT by foreign residents). And construction that will lead each of us to road rage (no signage/no warning of changes in routes, for example). People no longer look with kind eyes. People no longer want to help each other. I've always believed that what you give out is what you get back; smile and a smile is returned. Not now. Smile and you receive a scowl. People will just wonder what you want from them.
So all this, and with all my friends leaving or gone, these are the reasons why I would leave Kuwait should the day ever come. And that is tremendously saddening to me as I have loved this little country for over three decades; the country that used to have a white heart towards all the people within its borders.
Disclaimer: I don't publish hateful comments (and in the past few years, I unfortunately receive more and more of these). The comment that is the most concerning to me is, "Go back to your country." This is a statement made by people without the intellectual capacity to make any other remark or have any valid reasoning. They are the type of person harboring the hatred and discrimination that I have just posted about above - and I choose not to further promote their ideology by publishing it.
In 1990/91, I volunteered with Citizens For a Free Kuwait in Washington, DC and ran a not-for-profit organization called Kuwait Link to try to assist in any way I could towards the liberation of Kuwait and the assistance of the Kuwaiti people. When the 100-hour war took place in 1991 to liberate Kuwait, I struggled to go along with my Kuwaiti friends. I wanted to fight. But I couldn't; I was the only American with the group of Kuwaiti female interpreters that were going to basic training and then on to Kuwait. I was a liability as an American. So I stayed. And Kuwait was liberated in a blink of an eye.
I came here first in 1993, to look around and then I settled here in 1996. There were very few single American professional working women. I knew of only one other and learned about her only much later. Most American women were married to Kuwaitis. In the States, I had been engaged to a very nice Kuwaiti man, but I knew we just weren't meant for each other. (We are still friends after 33 years.) He wasn't the reason I came here: I came here because I honestly fell in love with Kuwait and Kuwaiti people on my visit (I sobbed most of that first plane ride back to the States. The BA air hostess hugged me and comforted me!). The people were kind and hospitable and caring. I had a cold, one of my friends would rush over to take me to the hospital. Literally. I was alone, they would come pick me up for family lunches. I needed something, my Kuwaiti friends were always there. Always. They never asked for anything in return and they did it out of kindness and love. The expression was, "they have a white heart."
I found a job before I came here. I worked at a subsidiary of an Islamic bank which asked me to wear hijab in the office. It was a unique insight into the lives of ladies who do choose to cover. I learned quite a bit about their decision and I respected them and the dignity they held. Of course, my wearing of the hijab was forced and so my heart was never in it; but I did try to be modest and respectful; even waiting an appropriate amount of time in my red sports car to pull it off at the end of the day and drive home. I'm glad I had the experience.
In the 90's, people in Kuwait still had time. You had time to meet your friends; share a stikana of tea or a plate of foul for breakfast at the beginning of the work day. You had time to meet for weekend lunches. No one had smart phones. The few who did have cell phones had Alcatels and Nokias or more likely, pagers. We weren't on them all the time because calls were expensive. It was cheaper to get paged and stop by Sultan Center to use their free public phone. Family meals with Kuwaitis were loud and festive with kids running in and out. It was a time to tell stories and share laughs. Everyone paid attention to each other. There normally wasn't even a television on (as at the time, Showtime and Orbit were the 2 satellite providers and not only did most people not have them - it was considered expensive at that time - but their programs were limited). KTV wasn't great and and they weren't on all the time. So you were forced to talk to each other. And it was nice.
In the 90's as a Westerner, you could walk down the street and people would stop to chat with you; maybe ask you where you are from and what you are doing in Kuwait. They were kind and friendly.
As the years passed, things started to change. In the early 2000's - particularly after 2003 when the US went into Iraq and Saddam was ousted - being a Westerner (especially an American) wasn't such a great thing. Teenaged kids hadn't been taught much about the Gulf War and how the Allied forces had worked with Kuwait towards liberation. People hadn't wanted to relive the past by talking about it, so when 2003 rolled around, America was frowned upon for "invading a neighboring Islamic country," Iraq. Iraqi music was played again throughout Kuwait. US and British flags were no longer sold on Liberation and National Days as they had been in the past. Time had quickly moved on.
Now we all have smart phones. Everyone is too busy to see each other and when we do, we all bow our heads to the Smart Phone Gods and spend far too much time in the cyber world than we do finding out what is happening in each other's lives. My lunches at Kuwaiti friends' homes are pretty much along the same lines. Kids no longer run through the rooms, laughing. They are too busy on their phones. We are all too busy at work to stop and chat over tea in the morning and God forbid someone should bring in breakfast; it might be seen as the end of our work ethics.
Note: back in the 90's and the early 2000's - there were only a handful of Kuwaiti restaurants. Now Kuwait is flooded with them. Both parents work these days and it is much easier to order than to spend time cooking.
When I see old friends, many want to talk about business. What we can do to make money. What other people are doing to make money, etc. On the rare occasions when I receive invitations these days, I always have to stop to question the motives. Why do they want me there? What will the discussion turn to? Who wants to do business with me/US? Rent their house to a Westerner? Import a car from the States? What will the pitch be? I can't just relax and let my guard down. It can't be about having fun and catching up (for the most part. I'm speaking in generalities. I know my closest friends and they are without ulterior motives; which is why I have limited myself to a tight-knit inner circle.)
My long-time non-Kuwaiti friends (Western professionals) are all but gone now. A few still remain, but are planning to leave. My best friend left Kuwait this year after 30 years here. Her Kuwaiti son is a diplomat and has no plans to ever return to Kuwait.
Why?
I can't say that there is just one reason, but a collection: It is just uncomfortable here now. It is as if the Sword of Damocles hangs above your head and you are in constant anxiety that something bad is about to happen (not terrorism or DAESH or any of that): Expat anxiety. People used to have parties or gatherings and be happy. There was a quality of life. You used to be able to go for a walk or leave your house to go to the grocery store without being anxious as to if you forgot your ID and may be sent to a deportation center for not having it with you. Deport, deport, deport. For everything from a traffic violation to (it seems recently) jay walking.
You can't own property as a foreigner in Kuwait, so you spend decades on what could have been mortgage payments. There are plans to limit the amount of time foreigners can live here to 10 years. For those of us who love Kuwait as a second home (and have even fought for the country in various ways), this is insult AND injury. Every non-Kuwaiti person must leave Kuwait eventually.
People have been willing to leave their own countries to come to live in Kuwait and we are blamed for many problems that would exist here with or without us. Like traffic. If I had an extra few billion dinars right now, I would create safe public mass transportation (where women wouldn't be groped and hoodlems wouldn't be allowed on to throw rocks at passengers for fun). I would even use it to get to/from work (as I use it in Dubai). I would create toll lanes on the highways (for all - not just for "expats"). But, it isn't my money and I'm not a decision maker. Why should I, as a foreign resident in Kuwait, be blamed for a failing system that could have/should have been fixed decades ago?
Foreign workers did not miraculously appear out of thin air: we were all brought here to work. We all go through a rigorous visa process. Someone at some time wanted us here (and as long as your visa is valid - they still must). (Illegal visa traders, of course, are the exception. They don't care as long as they are making a profit from selling visas They are the same breed as coyotes who leave Mexican illegal immigrants in the desert for their own profit. We all know who the Kuwaiti coyotes are, but little or nothing is being done to stop their illegal human trade.)
I'm not a guest in this country. That term is belittling and I refuse to use or respect it. If you are a guest, someone picks you up a the airport, takes you home (free of charge), feeds you, gives you some clean towels and shows you where your bed and the bathroom is. Maybe gives you a glass of water before saying goodnight. They probably cook your meals and give you desert after dinner. I'm not a guest. I get none of that.
I'm a resident of Kuwait. I make my own living and my own dinner. I add to the economy of this country. I have bought several cars while in Kuwait, paying interest (or "profit" in one case to an Islamic lending bank). I have leased cars. I bought furniture and goods in the local market (often paying much higher prices than I would in my own country). I pay my rent on time to my Kuwaiti landlord (for the past 22 years). I pay my electric bill. I pay for satellite TV. The list goes on and on. Who benefits from that? Kuwaiti merchants. Not foreign merchants: KUWAITI. Take away the foreign residents and you take away from the economy of the country and fellow Kuwaiti country men/women.
This is why the xenophobic politicians spouting expat hatred these days infuriate me so much. They seek their 15 minutes of political fame, but at what price? To the cost of the Kuwaiti economy. Citizens might agree to the ideology in the short term (Kuwait for Kuwaitis), but when the economy begins to wane and the thousands of new tiny apartments remain empty and no one is spending on services or products, the tide may quickly turn. (I just learned that Audi sales, for example, are down by 30% over last year. Granted, that is a luxury brand, but I wonder what other auto brands are suffering. The political instability for expats is creating spending fears.)
One of the biggest issues today in Kuwait is the over-extended Kuwaiti healthcare system. I love it that Kuwait has had virtually free healthcare, but I have used it only twice in 22 years. Once was not by choice: I didn't want to be transported to a government hospital when a young man on drugs crashed into my car. I would have preferred a private hospital. For that matter, I would have preferred that I would be allowed to donate my portion of the free health care to someone in need of it. My employer pays 100 KD/yr in my name for something I refuse to use as I get private insurance through that very same employer. It is wasteful and unnecessary. Further, it disgusts me to see law makers differentiating between ill patients via their nationality. I always firmly believed that Islam doesn't differentiate between humans by color or country or religion.
I have been here over two decades now. I haven't seen many changes in healthcare. Why aren't there more qualified Kuwaiti doctors? Is it that the system isn't retaining them? Is the country not educating young people or helping them to become doctors? Are they leaving? Why are Kuwaitis still being sent to Europe and the US for specialized healthcare? This isn't a new subject. I don't see the now-empty hospital waiting rooms as a good thing for anyone. If the fees are increased so much that poor sick expat people can't afford to go to the hospital, doesn't that actually put more Kuwaitis at risk for catching communicable diseases? The sick aren't going to hospitals for fun or because it is low-cost. If you're sick and can't afford to go to a doctor, you are more than likely to suffer in silence. Why did they put the cart before the horse? Devise a low cost insurance alternative first; or force employers (sponsors) to pay increased public insurance fees.
Let me get off politics and get back to my story.
I think what really changed my attitude about living here was what happened to me in 2015. You can read the full story in older posts here, but I was living in a house that was owned by Kuwaitis. They were so inhumane to me that I started to loose faith in Kuwaiti people all together. I never knew that there could be Kuwaitis that were so full of hate. I now chose my circle of friends with a lot more scrutiny. I have been very selective about what personal information I give out. I reference check landlords and even people I do business with. I never would have considered doing that when I first came here. I had such faith in the society. ... It's gone.
It seems that the joy has left the country. The activities that I used to find peaceful and relaxing have been ruined by internal invaders: Go to the desert and pick out a completely isolated spot, only to have people roll up in 4x's, pitch a tent right next to yours and put on loud music all night. Go to the beach in an isolated spot (even if it is by boat) and you will find people show up next to you and put on a show to attract attention. Where has the decency gone? What about privacy? Respect? Even the quiet things have been ruined. Cultural mores are a thing of the past. Everything and everyone is fair game for entertainment and self-gratification.
For years, I have helped promote Kuwait to people (mostly Westerners) transitioning to life here. I've made a lot of friends and answered a lot of e-mails: I've posted about the attractions, things to do, places to see. Where to go to find a home, where to go to buy or have furniture made. Where to buy a car. Where to send your kids to school. What doctors, dentists, mechanics, hair salons I would recommend. All of this amounts to promoting the local economy; of helping Kuwaiti businesses that I like and believe in. I have taken great pride in it, but recently I have found it more difficult to maintain my positive outlook. And to respond to queries for recommendations.
Its hard to stay positive and to help others when the same people that you are promoting could potentially be lumping you, a foreign resident, into a singular "expat" group that they may secretly desire to be expunged from the country. The recent political climate has polarized the country and created divisions and suspicions and questions. Unless I have a personal connection to businesses or services, I am now reluctant to promote them. How do they really feel about expat-me? Is that "deport" word in the back of their mind? Do they feel the right to be in line first because of the differences in our nationalities? I question if I should help or not. Part of me says, 'Stay true to yourself and believe in the good in all people," but every day a new expat law or proposal becomes part of our lives, limiting personal freedoms and rights; bringing my morale down a notch or two. Am I promoting the same people who stand behind that type of discriminatory behavior (and sadly, I have found that some of my dear Kuwaiti friends actually harbor that type of mentality)? Should I just remain quiet and stop assisting?
I don't even want to go out anymore because of the amount of road rage (and NOT by foreign residents). And construction that will lead each of us to road rage (no signage/no warning of changes in routes, for example). People no longer look with kind eyes. People no longer want to help each other. I've always believed that what you give out is what you get back; smile and a smile is returned. Not now. Smile and you receive a scowl. People will just wonder what you want from them.
So all this, and with all my friends leaving or gone, these are the reasons why I would leave Kuwait should the day ever come. And that is tremendously saddening to me as I have loved this little country for over three decades; the country that used to have a white heart towards all the people within its borders.
Disclaimer: I don't publish hateful comments (and in the past few years, I unfortunately receive more and more of these). The comment that is the most concerning to me is, "Go back to your country." This is a statement made by people without the intellectual capacity to make any other remark or have any valid reasoning. They are the type of person harboring the hatred and discrimination that I have just posted about above - and I choose not to further promote their ideology by publishing it.
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